I had a affair behind my wife’s back. My ex-mistress has filed for child support and medical support (1 year old son will be on my health insurance). Paternity test came back positive. Is there any way to keep the child support and medical support a secret from my wife? I’m not ready to tell her yet!
Answer: Child support most commonly comes out of your check as a direct deduction from your employer. If that is your case and your spouse sees your checks there is very little you can do to disguise the information. Your employer is required by law to do that and probably list it on your check as child support. You can try human resources to see if there is another way they could list the deduction, but in reality if your spouse sees your checks or verifies the deposit in any way she’s going to know there is a new deduction and will likely want an explanation.
The other thing you could do is work out a direct payment with the baby’s mother. This would keep it from coming out of your check. But the money still has to come from somewhere. It seems pretty unlikely that your spouse won’t know unless you have separate accounts and can still make your full financial contribution to the family.
You may also have health insurance issues that you need to work out. If your spouse reads your coverage information she is going to see the new child added on. Lucky for you on that one that most people don’t read their own health insurance documents let alone their spouses.
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